Help for children

Help for children

All children have the right to be safe. You should not be scared of anyone at home or feel upset because your mum is getting hurt.

 

If you’re worried or scared about what is going on at home, it can help to talk to someone. Maybe there’s a teacher you like, or another adult you trust.

Try to remember these things:

  • What’s happening is not your fault
  • You don’t have to deal with it alone
  • It’s not your responsibility to protect anyone else
  • There are people who can help you cope with what is happening
  • Hitting or hurting someone is against the law – no-one has the right to hurt another person

Who can I talk to?

The police

If you need help right away you should call the police. Dial 999 and ask for the police. You should give your name, address and telephone number and tell the police what is happening. Don’t hang up – if you do, the police might call back and this could give your dad, step-dad or mum’s boyfriend the chance to tell them that everything is okay and that the call was a mistake. It’s better to leave the phone off the hook so they can hear what is going on.

The police will come to your house and talk to your mum, dad or any other adults. They may even talk to you. They should make sure you are okay and have not been hurt. They may take away the person who was violent. Whatever happens you should remember that the abuse is not your fault.

Childline and the NSPCC

If you can talk safely to someone about what is happening, you can call Childline (0800 1111) or the NSPCC (0808 800 5000). You don’t have to tell them your name and the calls are free. They will listen to you, talk to you about what is happening and help you decide what to do next.

A teacher, doctor or other adult you trust

Talking to someone like a teacher, doctor or another adult you trust can help. They will want to make sure that you and your mum are safe so they might want to talk to your mum too. If they are worried that you might get hurt they may have to tell someone else. They should always tell you what they are doing and who they are planning to talk to.

 

I don’t understand what’s going on – I have more questions

It’s natural to have lots of questions about domestic violence – it can be hard to understand why it happens and what you can do. We’ve tried to answer some of those questions for you – find out more by reading some of the most frequently asked questions.