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I'm being abused - what shall I do?

If you are being abused, it may help to remember this:

  • You're not alone. One woman in four is abused during her lifetime.
  • You don't have to deal with this on your own.
  • The abuse is not your fault.
  • You cannot change your partner.
  • Domestic violence is against the law.

Help for women

Keeping safe

Recognising that you are being abused is an important step. Where you go from here is up to you. You may feel you need time to think about your situation. Or perhaps you have already made up your mind to leave. Whatever you decide, your safety is always the priority.

For support or to discuss your options call free & in confidence:

0808 2000 247*

*24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline. Run in partnership between Refuge and Women’s Aid.

Recognising abuse

Domestic violence is the abuse of one partner within an intimate or family relationship. It is the repeated, random and habitual use of intimidation to control a partner.

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True stories

Hearing from women who have survived violence and abuse is an inspiration. Knowing you are not alone can be a real help.

Janets Story

I was frightened and shocked but he was always so sorry for what he had done and promised never to hurt me again.

Read Janets story

Catherines Story

The turning point came when I contacted Refuge. I admitted to someone for the first time that I was in trouble. It was that admission that gave me somewhere to start.

Read Catherines story